“What’s the point? That can never be true!” — this is the refrain people use when advising people not to engage in fantasy, or as the local term would be — “khayali pulao” (good it wasn’t khayali biryani, or else our friends in orange would use that also to divide…

Where did I go wrong when wanting compassion and equality around me? Last year, I lost 4 out of 7 office plants because of my tendency to over water plants, “just in case”. The result was that they wilted and had to be replaced. The fact that something died in…

I seem to have missed the memo on why being in the present moment is better than being in any other moment. I use Buddhist psychology a lot in my work and mindfulness/meditation do have a place in our recovery plans, however, I do not understand why as a culture…

Badly burnt out counselors are an inside joke and a well-kept secret of the mental health services industry in India. Of course, because of the lack of regulation, licensure options and uniformity of education, how many good counselors, psychologists and therapists are there, is an unanswered and troubling question in…

This blog probably goes against all the advice that asks you to wake up at 5 am and make the best of your day, or to ensure that you plan well and avoid mistakes and only go for options you feel sure about. This advice comes from all corners like…

On my 28th birthday, I let myself die. I let my old self die. My old self that was afraid to be unlikable and cringed when important people disagreed with her. My old self that felt like shaken mud in water if everything was not in harmony at the home…

Jillu has the purest, most loving heart I have known any human or animal to possess. She had an unassuming but really caring presence. She would often sleep and wake up next to me. During the lockdown, the chair next to me was occupied by her as I worked. I…

It’s a hard time being a Muslim right now. There’s general Islamophobia all over the world, and in India too. The number of increased lynchings confirm that. Depending on your leaning, you will blame Muslims for it, or you will understand that internationally, villianising Muslims is a way to de-stabilise…

It is the 27th night of Ramzan, considered especially holy as it is most likely to be Laylatul-Qadr (The night of destiny), from all the odd numbered last ten days of Ramzan (21, 23, 25, 27, 29). On one of these nights, the Prophet was given the gift of the…